by Cori Leigh | Jun 12, 2024 | Cups of Hope
No matter what challenges you face today, your life holds a great purpose!
Every moment offers opportunities to grow, change, and heal. Purpose, peace, and healing often emerge while in the throes of life’s broken places. There is hope and a purpose that rises above the pain of our circumstances. However, many of us struggle to hold onto hope for a brighter tomorrow despite the challenges we face during tough times.
Reflect on Your Journey: Like I did years ago and continue to today, take a moment to acknowledge where you are and how far you’ve come. Consider journaling about your experiences—what has challenged you the most, and what lessons have you learned? Writing down your thoughts can help you identify patterns and gain insight into your growth.
Seek Small Wins: When hope fades, it’s easy to focus on what’s wrong. Instead, try to find one positive thing each day, no matter how small. It might be a kind word from a friend, a moment of peace, or a task you accomplished. Celebrate these small victories! They are stepping stones toward a greater purpose.
Embrace Healing and Growth
Years ago, I was overwhelmed by fear, anxiety, and panic attacks—each triggered by traumatic life events. When hope fades, it’s easy to focus solely on what’s wrong, which makes it difficult to see what’s right. This mindset can leave us feeling more stuck, making it challenging to discover a purpose that reaches beyond the pain of our circumstances.
This was me years ago. I felt trapped in my circumstances, with hope for a better and safer tomorrow seeming far out of reach. Healing and freedom from fear, worry, and anxiety appeared unattainable.
Identify Your Triggers: Just as I faced anxiety and panic attacks, it’s important to identify what triggers your stress and anxiety. This awareness can empower you to manage or avoid these triggers, creating space for healing.
Practice Self-Compassion: Understand that healing is a journey that takes time. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to feel what you feel without judgment. Practice self-care activities that nurture your soul, like taking a walk or spending time with loved ones.
Navigating Financial Hardship
As a single mother raising two daughters alone, financial challenges were constant, with often not enough money to make ends meet. The future seemed uncertain, and all I could see were the broken pieces of my life. I wondered if anything would ever be right again, questioning how I could put my life back together, piece by broken piece.
Set Realistic Goals: When facing financial hardship we feel overwhelmed. Break down your financial goals into manageable steps. Whether saving a small amount each week, creating a budget, or finding additional sources of income, each step brings you closer to stability.
Find Support: Find community resources, financial advisors, or trusted friends who can offer guidance and support. You don’t have to navigate these challenges alone. There is strength in seeking help when you need it.
Healing Through Writing
During this time, I wrote more than ever before. Writing became a healing ointment for my hurting heart. On paper, I could pour out my feelings about everything. Sometimes I read past journal entries from years past. In those times it’s a look at my life through previous writings. I see the broken woman I once was. Those pages hold broken dreams, seasons of grief, hopelessness, and sadness.
Start Journaling: Just as I found healing in writing, you can too. Start by journaling your thoughts and feelings each day. Don’t worry about structure—let the words flow naturally. Over time, you may find that journaling helps you process emotions and gain clarity.
Reflect on Your Progress: Revisit your old journal entries to see how much you’ve grown. This can be a powerful reminder of your resilience and the progress you’ve made.
Finding Peace in Faith
In my broken and anxious, fearful heart, God met me there. I’m still in awe of how Jesus sprinkled His light of hope in my darkness—enough to carry me through each day. He gave me hope and a purpose that reached beyond my pain. I could finally dance in the rain—not because all my problems vanished, but because I had hope.
Lean into Your Faith: If you have a faith practice, lean into it during difficult times. Whether through prayer, or reading your bible or other books, these practices can offer comfort and remind you that you’re not alone.
Embrace Hope: Remember, peace isn’t the absence of problems but the presence of hope in the midst of them.
Regardless of the extent of your suffering, past or present, there is hope and a future! One that leads to brighter tomorrow.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below…
Can you remember a time when you were in a dark season?
How did you find hope for a better tomorrow?
by Cori Leigh | Jun 5, 2024 | Journey From Anxiety to Peace
Anyone who has suffered a panic attack knows how horrible they are. I struggled for so many years with terrible panic attacks. They came out of the blue multiple times a day. Eventually, I became so afraid of when the next one would come. I didn’t know how to calm myself down when panic struck.
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by Cori Leigh | Jun 5, 2024 | Journey From Anxiety to Peace
Years ago, I a therapist suggested I write a letter to the anxiety. So I sat down and did just that. Truthfully, at the time doing this felt as crazy as living with anxiety did. To my surprise, it was amazing! It felt really good to talk back to what at the time I viewed as my tormentor. I then started a journal where I would write letters to the anxiety and panic attacks. There I would write many letters to my problem. Telling anxiety just what I thought of it so I could take my life back.
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by Cori Leigh | Apr 10, 2024 | At the Heart of Caregiving, Encouragement for Caregivers
March 5, 2019, began like any other day, but it swiftly turned into a defining moment that would forever alter our family. A devastating car accident left my parents injured and their vehicle totaled, shattering our sense of normalcy.
The crash inflicted several injuries on my mother: broken ribs, a concussion, a crushed collarbone, hearing loss, and persistent tinnitus. My father, though less physically harmed, suffered from back injuries, hearing loss, and signs of concussion.
The aftermath was a whirlwind of hospital visits, medical appointments, and the daunting challenge of managing their injuries. Their once active and independent lives were suddenly marked by vulnerability and struggle.
This ordeal was not merely a physical blow; it was an emotional and psychological one. The trauma of the accident shook our family to its core. In those early days, it felt as though life had been irrevocably divided into “before” and “after” the accident, marking the beginning of a challenging new chapter.
When life changes dramatically, it’s essential to allow yourself to grieve the loss of your previous normal.
This doesn’t mean giving up hope, but acknowledging that life has changed and that it’s okay to feel sadness, frustration, or even anger about it.
Becoming a Caregiver
As their physical and emotional recovery began, it became clear that my role shifted to caregiver. Both of my parents struggled with hearing loss, adding another layer of complexity to their situation. Their emotional and cognitive struggles were evident.
Taking on the role of a caregiver was not something I had anticipated. It was, however, a responsibility I’d come to accept and embrace. This shift in roles is one that many adult children face as their parents age, often triggered by a significant event like an accident or illness.
Seek Support
- Whether through support groups, counseling, or trusted friends, don’t try to navigate the caregiving journey alone.
- Caregiver burnout is real, and having a network of support can make a world of difference.
- Consider reaching out to local organizations that offer resources for caregivers.
A Shifting Reality
Over the next few years, the impact of the accident became increasingly apparent. Each day brought new challenges. The initial shock evolved into a deep understanding of how much my parents had aged.
Our family dynamics shifted significantly. What was once a relationship based on mutual support had evolved into one where I was the primary caregiver. This shift can be difficult to accept, both for the caregiver and the ones being cared for. It’s a reminder that life is ever-changing, and we must adapt to those changes, even when they are unwelcome.
Adapt to Change
- Life rarely goes according to plan.
- Embrace change rather than resist it.
- Find new ways to connect with loved ones.
- Redefine your relationships in positive ways.
- Flexibility and patience are key during these times of transition.
The Long Road Ahead
My journey through caring for my mom and dad’s needs was not just about managing immediate ones but about adapting to a long-term reality. It required me to confront the evolving nature of our family dynamics, recognizing that the support and care my parents needed were part of a larger, ongoing commitment.
Reflecting on that fateful day, I see it as the beginning of a journey that, though challenging, has taught me invaluable lessons about love, resilience, and the enduring strength of family bonds. The road ahead is one of continuous adaptation, but it’s paved with hope and unwavering commitment.
Focus on the Positive Notes
While caregiving can be overwhelming, it’s also an opportunity to strengthen family bonds and create lasting memories.
- Focus on the positive aspects of your new role.
- Celebrate the small progress along the way.
Life’s unexpected turns, like the car accident that redefined our family dynamics, can be difficult to navigate. But within these challenges lie opportunities for growth, connection, and deepening relationships. By embracing the changes and finding support, we can rise above the pain and discover a renewed sense of purpose and hope.
I’d love to hear your stories and insights in the comments below. Sharing your experience can help others who are going through similar challenges.
Have you experienced a similar shift in family dynamics?
How did you navigate the changes?
by Cori Leigh | Dec 20, 2023 | Christmas, Journey From Anxiety to Peace, Stress
The holiday season is here. We decorate our homes with care, fill our schedules with celebrations, and shop for thoughtful gifts. Everything looks festive, and we can feel the magic of the season all around.
However, it’s also a busy time of year, and for many people around the world, it can be a source of stress. Increased anxiety, depression, loneliness, grief and even illness can overshadow the joy of Christmas. For those who have lost a loved one or are feeling isolated, the holidays can be especially difficult.
As we rush to complete our never-ending to-do lists, the pressure to make the holidays perfect can leave us feeling drained. Often, self-care slips down the list of priorities. But taking care of ourselves is essential, and it’s possible to do so—even during the busiest of seasons.
In this post, I’m sharing self-care ideas that will help you reclaim the holiday spirit and give yourself the gift of peace, joy, and health.
Simplify Your Christmas
The best gift you can give yourself this Christmas is simplicity. We all want to create beautiful memories for our loved ones. We build on stress when we overextend ourselves physically, emotionally, and financially.
By simplifying your holiday plans, you’ll reduce stress and avoid burnout. Prioritize what matters most and make space to enjoy the season with family and friends without the weight of unrealistic expectations.
Boost Your Immune System
The holiday season can take a toll on our health, but focusing on nourishing your body can help you stay strong and vibrant throughout the festivities. Here are some key self-care habits to support your immune system and overall well-being:
- Sleep: Aim for 7-8 hours of rest each night. Sleep is essential for maintaining energy and resilience.
- Healthy Meals: Incorporate plenty of fruits and vegetables into your daily meals to nourish your body.
- Vitamins: Take a daily vitamin supplement to ensure you’re getting the nutrients you need for immune support.
- Prayer and Meditation: Set aside time before bed for prayer or meditation to calm your mind and release any stress.
- Naps: If possible, take short naps during the day to recharge.
By incorporating these habits into your routine, you’ll support both your physical and mental health, setting the stage for a peaceful and joyful holiday season.
Moments of Quiet Time
Taking time for yourself may feel impossible amidst the holiday rush, but it’s essential for restoring balance and reducing stress. Making space for quiet moments doesn’t require hours—just a few minutes can make a world of difference.
- Find a quiet spot, like your bedroom, where you can pause and breathe deeply.
- Lie down, close your eyes, and focus on the present moment—leave behind the “to-do” list.
- Even just 15-30 minutes of solitude can help clear your mind and ease stress.
- Use this time to journal your thoughts or practice relaxation breathing (belly breathing) to calm your nervous system.
These moments of self-care will help you center yourself and regain energy to enjoy the season.
Pamper Yourself a Little
Self-care doesn’t have to be extravagant to be effective. Treating yourself to small moments of pampering can help you unwind and rejuvenate.
- Take a relaxing bath with soothing scents, light a candle, and enjoy a good book.
- Visit a spa for a massage or facial if it’s in your budget, or enjoy a DIY at-home treatment.
- For me, nothing beats curling up with a cup of hot tea and an aromatherapy candle in the evening. Even my dog loves the peaceful atmosphere!
What’s your favorite way to pamper yourself during the holiday season? Share in the comments!
Give Yourself the Gift of Self-Care
Christmas is meant to be enjoyed, and self-care is the key to unlocking the joy and peace of the season. When you prioritize your health and well-being, you’ll create a holiday experience that’s filled with love, happiness, and calm.
Make this holiday season one of joy and self-compassion. May it be filled with blessings, health, peace, and, of course, moments of self-care. Wishing you a very merry Christmas and a New Year filled with hope and joy!
I’d love to hear from you in the comments:
Will you add yourself to your Christmas list this year and check it twice?
How do you reduce stress and stay healthy throughout the holidays?
