by Cori Leigh | Jun 5, 2024 | Anxiety, Journey From Anxiety to Peace
Years ago, I a therapist suggested I write a letter to the anxiety. So I sat down and did just that. Truthfully, at the time doing this felt as crazy as living with anxiety did. To my surprise, it was amazing! It felt really good to talk back to what at the time I viewed as my tormentor. I then started a journal where I would write letters to the anxiety and panic attacks. There I would write many letters to my problem. Telling anxiety just what I thought of it so I could take my life back.
Doing this helped me release some pent-up anger, frustration, and discouragement. One day, I decided to write a letter to the anxiety that had tormented me for so long. I was feeling discouraged. It seemed this anxiety was never going to settle down. I needed to tell the anxiety that I wouldn’t let it keep me captive forever. So I sat down and wrote. This is what I wrote that day…
A Letter to Anxiety
You have controlled me for so many years.
You’ve caused me unimaginable inner torment and pain. You have worked hard day and night to destroy me. You’ve attempted to take me away from myself and those I love. You have robbed me of my freedom. All you want me to do is live captive to fear. Gripping me with fear and panic so severe. Leaving me anxious, fearful and breathless most of the time. I often feel like giving up the fight for restoration, peace, and healing.
I’ve endured so many panic attacks and suffered so much.
Yes, my life has been crazy because of you. You’ve done a good job of inflicting emotional and physical distress. Years of my life now gone because of you stealing my peace.
For years, I never understood you or even much about you.
You attacked like an untamed lion over and over and over. More viciously with each passing day. This is all you can do to me and there is no more.
I have been learning to unveil your many mysteries.
Realizing that you are not as powerful as I thought. Once known and understood you are doomed to shrink. I will now learn how to put you in your place.
You may loom overhead, but you may not have power over me. I will make you completely powerless once and for all!
One day soon, I will reach inside of me and throw you out! You will be finally locked out and I will hold the key! Just as you locked me in I will lock you out. Inner peace will take your place, to this peace I hold. After I wrote this letter, I continued to write to the anxiety. In the end, doing this helped me to heal. I encourage you to not stay silent. Get your thoughts out. Keeping them inside isn’t healthy. Writing out how you feel about the anxiety in your life ultimately will be the release you need.
Join the conversation
Have you ever written a letter to the anxiety in your life?
by Cori Leigh | Apr 10, 2024 | At the Heart of Caregiving, Encouragement for Caregivers, Grief & Loss
March 5, 2019, began like any other day, but it swiftly turned into a defining moment that would forever alter our family. A devastating car accident left my parents injured and their vehicle totaled, shattering our sense of normalcy.
The crash inflicted several injuries on my mother: broken ribs, a concussion, a crushed collarbone, hearing loss, and persistent tinnitus. My father, though less physically harmed, suffered from back injuries, hearing loss, and signs of concussion.
The aftermath was a whirlwind of hospital visits, medical appointments, and the daunting challenge of managing their injuries. Their once active and independent lives were suddenly marked by vulnerability and struggle.
This ordeal was not merely a physical blow; it was an emotional and psychological one. The trauma of the accident shook our family to its core. In those early days, it felt as though life had been irrevocably divided into “before” and “after” the accident, marking the beginning of a challenging new chapter.
When life changes dramatically, it’s essential to allow yourself to grieve the loss of your previous normal.
This doesn’t mean giving up hope, but acknowledging that life has changed and that it’s okay to feel sadness, frustration, or even anger about it.
Becoming a Caregiver
As their physical and emotional recovery began, it became clear that my role shifted to caregiver. Both of my parents struggled with hearing loss, adding another layer of complexity to their situation. Their emotional and cognitive struggles were evident.
Taking on the role of a caregiver was not something I had anticipated. It was, however, a responsibility I’d come to accept and embrace. This shift in roles is one that many adult children face as their parents age, often triggered by a significant event like an accident or illness.
Seek Support
- Whether through support groups, counseling, or trusted friends, don’t try to navigate the caregiving journey alone.
- Caregiver burnout is real, and having a network of support can make a world of difference.
- Consider reaching out to local organizations that offer resources for caregivers.
A Shifting Reality
Over the next few years, the impact of the accident became increasingly apparent. Each day brought new challenges. The initial shock evolved into a deep understanding of how much my parents had aged.
Our family dynamics shifted significantly. What was once a relationship based on mutual support had evolved into one where I was the primary caregiver. This shift can be difficult to accept, both for the caregiver and the ones being cared for. It’s a reminder that life is ever-changing, and we must adapt to those changes, even when they are unwelcome.
Adapt to Change
- Life rarely goes according to plan.
- Embrace change rather than resist it.
- Find new ways to connect with loved ones.
- Redefine your relationships in positive ways.
- Flexibility and patience are key during these times of transition.
The Long Road Ahead
My journey through caring for my mom and dad’s needs was not just about managing immediate ones but about adapting to a long-term reality. It required me to confront the evolving nature of our family dynamics, recognizing that the support and care my parents needed were part of a larger, ongoing commitment.
Reflecting on that fateful day, I see it as the beginning of a journey that, though challenging, has taught me invaluable lessons about love, resilience, and the enduring strength of family bonds. The road ahead is one of continuous adaptation, but it’s paved with hope and unwavering commitment.
Focus on the Positive Notes
While caregiving can be overwhelming, it’s also an opportunity to strengthen family bonds and create lasting memories.
- Focus on the positive aspects of your new role.
- Celebrate the small progress along the way.
Life’s unexpected turns, like the car accident that redefined our family dynamics, can be difficult to navigate. But within these challenges lie opportunities for growth, connection, and deepening relationships. By embracing the changes and finding support, we can rise above the pain and discover a renewed sense of purpose and hope.
I’d love to hear your stories and insights in the comments below. Sharing your experience can help others who are going through similar challenges.
Have you experienced a similar shift in family dynamics?
How did you navigate the changes?
by Cori Leigh | Dec 20, 2023 | Christmas
The holiday season is here. We decorate our homes with care, fill our schedules with celebrations, and shop for thoughtful gifts. Everything looks festive, and we can feel the magic of the season all around.
However, it’s also a busy time of year, and for many people around the world, it can be a source of stress. Increased anxiety, depression, loneliness, grief and even illness can overshadow the joy of Christmas. For those who have lost a loved one or are feeling isolated, the holidays can be especially difficult.
As we rush to complete our never-ending to-do lists, the pressure to make the holidays perfect can leave us feeling drained. Often, self-care slips down the list of priorities. But taking care of ourselves is essential, and it’s possible to do so—even during the busiest of seasons.
In this post, I’m sharing self-care ideas that will help you reclaim the holiday spirit and give yourself the gift of peace, joy, and health.
Simplify Your Christmas
The best gift you can give yourself this Christmas is simplicity. We all want to create beautiful memories for our loved ones. We build on stress when we overextend ourselves physically, emotionally, and financially.
By simplifying your holiday plans, you’ll reduce stress and avoid burnout. Prioritize what matters most and make space to enjoy the season with family and friends without the weight of unrealistic expectations.
Boost Your Immune System
The holiday season can take a toll on our health, but focusing on nourishing your body can help you stay strong and vibrant throughout the festivities. Here are some key self-care habits to support your immune system and overall well-being:
- Sleep: Aim for 7-8 hours of rest each night. Sleep is essential for maintaining energy and resilience.
- Healthy Meals: Incorporate plenty of fruits and vegetables into your daily meals to nourish your body.
- Vitamins: Take a daily vitamin supplement to ensure you’re getting the nutrients you need for immune support.
- Prayer and Meditation: Set aside time before bed for prayer or meditation to calm your mind and release any stress.
- Naps: If possible, take short naps during the day to recharge.
By incorporating these habits into your routine, you’ll support both your physical and mental health, setting the stage for a peaceful and joyful holiday season.
Moments of Quiet Time
Taking time for yourself may feel impossible amidst the holiday rush, but it’s essential for restoring balance and reducing stress. Making space for quiet moments doesn’t require hours—just a few minutes can make a world of difference.
- Find a quiet spot, like your bedroom, where you can pause and breathe deeply.
- Lie down, close your eyes, and focus on the present moment—leave behind the “to-do” list.
- Even just 15-30 minutes of solitude can help clear your mind and ease stress.
- Use this time to journal your thoughts or practice relaxation breathing (belly breathing) to calm your nervous system.
These moments of self-care will help you center yourself and regain energy to enjoy the season.
Pamper Yourself a Little
Self-care doesn’t have to be extravagant to be effective. Treating yourself to small moments of pampering can help you unwind and rejuvenate.
- Take a relaxing bath with soothing scents, light a candle, and enjoy a good book.
- Visit a spa for a massage or facial if it’s in your budget, or enjoy a DIY at-home treatment.
- For me, nothing beats curling up with a cup of hot tea and an aromatherapy candle in the evening. Even my dog loves the peaceful atmosphere!
What’s your favorite way to pamper yourself during the holiday season? Share in the comments!
Give Yourself the Gift of Self-Care
Christmas is meant to be enjoyed, and self-care is the key to unlocking the joy and peace of the season. When you prioritize your health and well-being, you’ll create a holiday experience that’s filled with love, happiness, and calm.
Make this holiday season one of joy and self-compassion. May it be filled with blessings, health, peace, and, of course, moments of self-care. Wishing you a very merry Christmas and a New Year filled with hope and joy!
I’d love to hear from you in the comments:
Will you add yourself to your Christmas list this year and check it twice?
How do you reduce stress and stay healthy throughout the holidays?
by Cori Leigh | Jul 11, 2023 | Short Stories
“C’mon Pete, we have to walk a little faster or we’re going to be late for school,” said Pete’s ten-year-old sister, Mary.
“It’s just that my legs won’t go fast, Mary,” five-year-old Pete whined.
“If you don’t walk faster, I’m walking on without you. Do you want to go all alone?” she said.
“Mommy said you can’t leave me because I’m too young,” he reminded her as they walked down the poverty-stricken street.
Pete reached into his right pocket and started playfully jiggling a red jelly bean.
“If you don’t walk faster, I’ll leave you here, I promise!” Mary said angrily.
They continued the long trek to school while Pete tried to speed up his steps. He splashed his running shoes in a big puddle of water.
“Mary, my Sunday school teacher said God wants us to be nice to people. So you have to be nice to me, okay?” he said with his big blue eyes looking up at her.
“Okay, Pete, I’ll try, but keep walking faster. If you don’t, I’ll hold your hand all the way there.”
“I don’t like holding your hand. It makes my hand sweat.”
“Then walk quickly and don’t talk, just walk,” she ordered.
Silence took over the remainder of the next few minutes. Mary enjoyed a moment of peace.
“Pete, we’re almost there. We’ll get there before the bell rings,” she said.
Oh no! Where’s Pete?
Mary couldn’t believe he had disappeared. Pete was there just a few minutes ago.
“Pete! Where did you go? Last time I looked, you were right here!” She called out for her brother.
No, Pete didn’t pop out from behind a bush or respond to her calls. It was as if he had vanished.
Mary stood for a few seconds, her mind racing as she ran toward the school to tell someone.
Meanwhile, little Pete was on a journey of his own. He had seen a cute kitten a few minutes ago and stopped to pet it. As it darted behind a bush, Pete chased it and found it under the bush with the cutest eyes staring back at him.
“Hi, little kitty, you are so cute. Do you want to come to school with me?” he said sweetly as he picked up the kitten.
Pete took his backpack off his shoulders and opened it up to place the kitten inside. Excited to show his friends and his sister what he had found, he closed the backpack and put it back over his shoulders.
As he walked toward the school, he realized Mary was nowhere in sight.
“You okay back there, kitty?” he asked.
He walked, hoping to see his sister soon on the way.
Back at the school, Mary was in a frenzy, not knowing where Pete was. Mrs. Hayward, the school secretary, said they would call their mother.
“But my mom will be so mad at me because I lost my brother,” Mary said with a worried look on her face.
“It isn’t your fault, Mary. Just sit here for a few minutes,” Mrs. Hayward reassured her as she picked up the phone.
Pete, meanwhile, realized he was lost. He began to look for someone who could help. He prayed to God to help him find his way.
“What are you doing out on the streets all alone, boy?” a gruff voice said from behind him.
Pete turned around to see a tall older man with torn clothes and a long white beard.
“Son, you look lost. My name is Ben. What’s your name?”
“Pete. Can you help me find my school? I lost my sister and myself, too. I found a kitten and it’s lost too. That’s how I got lost. I chased it and then put it in my backpack,” Pete said, trying not to cry.
“I can probably help you find your school. Did you say you have a kitten in your backpack?” the man asked.
“Yes, would you like to see it? It’s cute and little,” Pete offered.
“Sure.”
Pete took off his backpack and opened it up, but the kitten was gone.
All he could do was cry now. He was lost, scared, and couldn’t find his sister. Now the kitten he was going to take to school was gone!
“I’m scared!” Pete cried as he looked hopelessly up at the man.
“It’s okay to be scared. I’ve been afraid lots of times. I’ve been lost just like you and spent many nights hungry. I wish I had something to give you, but I don’t have anything. I’m just a poor homeless man. Let’s go try to find your school and your sister. Maybe the kitten will find you again.”
“What is a homeless man?” Pete asked curiously.
“I have no home to live in, no bed to sleep in, no money to buy food or clothing,” the man explained.
“At my church, we give things to people who have nothing. Maybe you should come to my church and get some stuff. They can help you there. Maybe they’ll even give you a home. Sometimes, we eat at church. Maybe they can feed you. They have a plate we put money in, and there is always a lot of money in it. Maybe they will give you some money,” Pete said.
“God gave up on me years ago, and so did people. I don’t think your church wants to see someone like me,” the man said sadly, having lost hope and faith.
“They would be nice to you and even give you new clothes. The ones you’re wearing aren’t good. You might get cold with all those holes in your clothes.”
“Pete! Where have you been?” a familiar voice yelled from across the street.
Pete looked over and saw his mom running toward him. Taking his knapsack off his back, he put it on the ground and reached in to grab his lunch.
“Here is my lunch. I want you to have it so you aren’t hungry anymore. Jesus will make more just like he did with the bread in the Bible. Then you will always have something to eat. Bye and thanks for helping me,” Pete said as he handed the old man his lunch.
He ran over to his mother.
“Who is that man, Pete? I told you never to talk to strangers,” his mom said as they walked across the street toward her car.
“Mom, he has no home. He was nice to me. He’s lost just like me and hungry, so I gave him my lunch,” Pete said.
“I am so glad you’re okay, Pete. It was nice of you to give the man your lunch. I just don’t want you talking to strangers,” Pete’s mom said, touched by her son’s compassion.
“Mom, I forgot to give him something,” Pete said. Then he walked over to the man who was sitting on the curb eating the lunch Pete had given him.
“I want you to have this, too. It’s my special red jelly bean. Every time I remember a Bible verse, my mom gives me a jelly bean. This morning I got a red one. Don’t eat it—just look at it every day so you can remember God loves you. He’ll get you new clothes and a home too!”
“Thanks, boy. Tell your mom she makes a good lunch.”
“Okay, bye.”
Two weeks later…
The same man walked into a local church carrying the red jelly bean Pete had given him. He would never forget the kind little boy he met on the street. Pete had given him a glimmer of hope beyond his pain.
Every time he looked at the red jelly bean, he thought of Pete and God’s love for him. For the first time, he had hope for a better tomorrow.
by Cori Leigh | Sep 18, 2021 | Pandemic
The COVID-19 pandemic that began in 2020 altered our world in ways none of us could have anticipated. It shattered our daily routines, forced us into isolation, and for many, left an indelible mark of fear, uncertainty, and loss.
From health concerns to economic instability, life as we knew it changed for billions of people. For those who already struggled with anxiety and depression, the weight of these changes felt even heavier.
As we faced this global crisis together, one thing became clear: coping with hope, staying calm, and protecting our mental health were essential to getting through. While we couldn’t control the external circumstances, we could take steps to manage our internal responses.
Here are some ways to cultivate hope and calm your anxiety and fear during these unprecedented times.
Be Kind to Yourself: Practice Daily Self-Care
The first and most crucial step in managing rising anxiety is to be kind to yourself. During difficult times, self-care becomes more important than ever. When we neglect our own needs, everything seems harder. It’s essential to develop a routine that prioritizes your mental and physical well-being.
Some practical self-care habits include:
- Breathing exercises: Practicing relaxation breathing can help trigger a calm response and decrease anxiety symptoms. Slow, deep breaths can lower your heart rate and shift your focus away from stress.
- Mindful activities: Doing things that bring you joy or help you feel more relaxed, whether it’s reading, gardening, or creating something new, can provide a much-needed break from the chaos.
- Awareness of thoughts: Your thoughts have a powerful influence on how you feel. It’s important to recognize when you’re spiraling into negativity and to actively shift to more positive or constructive thinking.
- Exercise: Physical activity helps burn off the adrenaline that comes with anxiety. Even a short walk or a few stretches can make a difference.
- Positive content: Be mindful of what you consume. Avoid information that feeds your fear, and instead focus on uplifting or educational material that enriches your mind.
- Proper nutrition and rest: Maintaining a strong immune system is more important than ever. Eating well and getting plenty of rest not only supports physical health but also strengthens your mental resilience.
Resist Consuming Too Much Media
During the pandemic, information about COVID-19 was everywhere. While it’s important to stay informed, too much exposure to media—especially the constant cycle of negative news—can increase anxiety and make you feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to become consumed by every update, but this can magnify your fear and hopelessness.
Instead of starting and ending your day with news consumption, create boundaries around media use. Limit how much time you spend on news sites or social media.
Choose specific times to check for updates, and once you’ve done that, shift your attention to something positive. This practice not only reduces anxiety but also allows you to regain a sense of control over your mental space.
Focusing on what lifts you up rather than what drags you down is a powerful way to protect your peace.
Create a List of Things to Do
For some, the pandemic brought an overwhelming list of additional responsibilities—working from home, homeschooling children, or caring for family members. For others, it created a void, leaving them feeling bored and unsure of how to fill their days.
Regardless of which camp you fall into, having a list of daily activities can bring structure and a sense of purpose.
Your list doesn’t have to include grand achievements. Even small, meaningful tasks can give you something to look forward to and help you stay grounded. Whether it’s organizing your home, learning a new skill, or simply enjoying a hobby, having a plan for your day can ease feelings of restlessness and anxiety.
Staying busy in a purposeful way can shift your focus from what’s wrong in the world to what’s within your control.
Pray
The emergence of a deadly virus and the rapid spread of a pandemic was something none of us could control. In times like these, it’s easy to feel powerless, but leaning on something greater than ourselves can bring immense peace.
Find comfort in keeping a prayer journal, praying, reading scripture, or simply sitting in stillness to center their thoughts.
As you reflect, remember that even when things seem beyond our control, there is always peace found in faith in Jesus.
He is bigger than the pandemic!
Attitude of Gratitude
It’s easy to focus on what’s going wrong, but in times of crisis, it’s just as important to see what’s going right. Gratitude is a powerful tool that helps shift your perspective from what you’ve lost to what you still have.
Even amid the mess, there are moments of beauty and goodness. Take time each day to reflect on these moments, no matter how small they may seem. Whether it’s the warmth of sunlight through your window, a kind gesture from a neighbor, or the laughter of a loved one, there are always things to be thankful for.
Keeping a gratitude journal can help you stay focused on the positive aspects of your life, even in the darkest times. This practice not only lifts your spirits but also nourishes your mental health by reminding you that there is still good in the world.
Stay Connected with Others
One of the most difficult aspects of the pandemic was the isolation many people felt. Not being able to physically be with friends and family left many feeling confined and lonely. Yet, staying connected is essential for our well-being. Human connection, even from a distance, is a vital part of coping with hardship.
Thanks to technology, we can still reach out to our loved ones through video calls, phone conversations, and messages. Take time each day to check in with someone you care about, whether it’s a friend, a family member, or a neighbor. These small moments of connection can ease the sense of isolation and remind us that we’re not alone in this.
We weren’t meant to navigate life’s challenges in isolation, and by maintaining our connections, we can support each other through difficult times.
Conclusion: Cope with Hope
Friends, as dark as things may have seemed during the height of the pandemic, remember that this too shall pass. While we faced unprecedented challenges, we also found new ways to care for ourselves, connect with others, and cultivate hope. Through it all, you’ve survived, and that is something to be celebrated.
Stay well, stay safe, and hold on to the hope that brighter days are ahead. With a commitment to self-care, mindfulness, and connection, we can all cope with hope and emerge from these times stronger than before. Be blessed with peace.
