If you’re reading this it’s likely you’re grieving a loved one. I am sorry for your loss. The sadness feels crushing, and imagining life without your loved one seems impossible. While the weight of grief is heavy, there is hope for life after loss.
In 2019, my parents were in a serious car accident. In a single moment, everything changed. Though they survived, that day marked the beginning of a long season of care-giving, uncertainty, and later heartbreaking loss.
Just a few months later, while still caring for them, I lost a close aunt suddenly and unexpectedly. She passed away only six weeks after being diagnosed with aggressive cancer.
Not long after, my father was diagnosed with cancer as well. He was also living with mixed dementia and Alzheimer’s. My dad fought bravely, but in 2022, he passed away. Shortly before he died, my dog Bella, my loyal companion of over 17 years suddenly passed away in her bed beside me.
Grief runs deep. It reaches into our bodies, our thoughts, our relationships, and even our sense of identity and purpose.
With each loss I didn’t know how to carry the pain. Life kept shifting under my feet, and often I couldn’t see a way through. Maybe you’ve felt that too? Like you’re walking through a fog, unsure if life will ever feel steady or light again. It felt like I lost myself along with those I love.
Over time, I began to see that grief doesn’t disappear, it just changes. The love stays. The memories remain. And somehow, slowly, we surprisingly begin to rise again. These days, I live with moments of hope, renewed purpose, and even glimpses of joy.
Not every day is easy. Some days still bring waves of sorrow and I expect they always will. I’ve learned to welcome those waves rather than resist them. In some strange and sacred way, they bring me closer to the ones I’ve lost.
This post isn’t a checklist to “fix” your grief. Nothing I say can remove your pain or bring your loved one back. Here you’ll find gentle, small ways to care for yourself as you walk your personal and unique journey through grief.
Understanding the Impact of Grief
As you navigate each day, it helps to take a moment and give yourself grace.
Grief touches every part of us, emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It drains our energy, clouds our thinking, and makes everything familiar feel suddenly foreign. We’re left with a painful emptiness that echoes the depth of our loss.
You may feel like you’ve lost a part of yourself. I did too. You might find yourself asking, Who am I now without them? On the hardest days, it can seem like hope and the idea of living fully again is out of reach.
But over time, we’re reminded that healing doesn’t mean forgetting. It means learning to live again with our grief, not beyond it or without it. Grief becomes part of our story, not the whole of it. And slowly, the weight begins to feel a little less heavy. The intensity softens. We begin to carry it differently as we continue our journey through loss.
Allow Yourself to Grieve
Give yourself permission to feel everything. Grief is not something to fix or rush through. It’s something to feel, hold, and move through at your own pace.
Cry when you need to. Sit with your sorrow. Let the tears come, or the silence speak. You don’t have to be strong for anyone else. Your heart is doing the hard work of carrying love and loss at the same time.
Remember the love you shared. Let it remind you that your grief is a reflection of that love. Learning to live with grief begins when we stop suppressing our pain and start honoring the truth of our feelings.
Find Comfort in Small Routines
When grief makes life feel uncertain, small daily routines can offer gentle stability.
A warm cup of tea in the morning. A short walk in the fresh air. Lighting a candle at sunset. Reading or listening to something that brings you comfort.
These small moments can become anchors in your day. They remind you that while everything has changed, not everything is lost. Life still moves forward, even in sorrow.
Simple routines can help you find your footing again. It comes softly, slowly, and at your own pace.
Connect with Others
Grief can feel isolating, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
Reach out to those who care, whether it’s a friend, a family member, church events, or a support group. Sometimes, just having someone sit with you in silence or listen to your memories can bring a deep sense of comfort. You don’t need to have the right words. Love still surrounds you, even when it feels distant.
Let others walk with you, even if just for a little while.
Creativity While in Grief
Grief often brings emotions too big for words. Creative expression can offer a way to release what’s been held inside.
Through journal writing, painting, music, writing poetry, or crafting something in memory of your loved one. There’s no right or wrong way to do this. Let your heart lead. It’s not about the final product, but about the healing that can happen in the process.
Self Care During the Difficult Times
Grief takes a toll not only by breaking our heart, but on the body and mind.
You may feel exhausted, forgetful, anxious, or unable to rest. That’s all part of the process. Try to nourish your body with good food, stay hydrated, and rest when you need to. Take gentle walks or stretch. If needed, speak with a counselor or mental health professional.
Self-care is not selfish. It’s a form of love for yourself and for the one you’ve lost. When you care for yourself, you’re making space to keep going, one moment at a time.
Keeping Their Memory Alive
Remembering our loved ones them carries their love forward in comforting ways.
Whether through simple creative expressions or other actions inspired by who they were while here. These gestures help us feel their presence and keep them close.
Lighting a candle on their birthday. Cooking their favorite meal. Creating a memory book. Continuing a tradition they cherished. These small but meaningful things help your heart move forward with love. Allowing you the space to honor and continually remember the life they lived. Grief may change, but love remains.
Open Your Heart to Hope
Hope doesn’t mean you’re “over it.” It means believing that light can shine through, even in sorrow.
Some days, hope looks simply like getting out of bed. Other days, it might mean smiling at a memory or laughing again. These moments matter. Hope is not the absence of grief. It’s the gentle presence of possibility that joy and sorrow coexists. A reminder that life can still hold meaning, even after great loss.
Leaning on Your Faith
For those of us of faith, we move forward with the hope of being reunited with our loves ones in Heaven. What a beautiful reunion that will be!
Faith is our lifeline when everything else feels lost. When words fall short and sorrow is too deep, turning to prayer, scripture, or quiet reflection can bring comfort. Trusting in God’s presence reminds us we are not alone. He is near to the brokenhearted, even in the silence. Faith doesn’t erase the pain, but it can hold us steady as we walk through it.
For me, there is deep comfort in the promise that I will one day see my loved ones again. This eternal hope doesn’t make the pain vanish, but it gives me strength to face each day. My faith helps me rise,even in grief, with the quiet assurance that their love never truly ends.
Moving Forward: Life After Loss
Life after loss is not about going back to who you were.
It’s about becoming someone new with the love and lessons of those you’ve lost carried within you. Finding purpose might look different now.
For some, it’s helping others. For others, it’s living more intentionally, embracing beauty in the small things, or simply continuing to show up each day.
You may not feel strong right now, and that’s okay. Strength in grief is not loud or heroic. It’s quiet. It’s choosing to keep going, even when your heart is still breaking.
You Can Rise Again with Hope, Meaning, and Purpose After Loss
Loss changes us, but it doesn’t have to define us. The love we carry doesn’t disappear. It does transform us. And slowly, in our own time, we can learn to live again. You can learn to live with the grief, with the love, and with hope. Each day, even in small ways, you can rise again.
Ever since I was a young girl through writing, I’ve expressed my deepest feelings and thoughts. Journaling has been especially helpful during a prolonged season of caregiving, anticipatory grief, and navigating multiple losses.
In 2019, my parents were involved in a bad car accident, and I began assisting as one or their caregivers. My mom sustained a serious concussion, significant hearing loss, 9 broken ribs, and a crushed collarbone.
My dad hurt his back, his hearing loss intensified – and it was bad before, dementia became more noticeable than prior to the accident. Both of them suffered from the emotional trauma the accident caused.
Two months later…
My close aunt (my dads sister) was diagnosed with aggressive cancer and passed away within six weeks. My aunt Lois was like a best friend to me and I miss her so much!
Shortly after my aunt’s passing, my dad was diagnosed with cancer while already living with dementia.
The pandemic of 2020 further increased my caregiving responsibilities over the next few years…
In August 2022, my beloved 17 ½-year-old dog, Bella, suddenly passed away beside me. She was my constant companion and always by my side! My Bella
was a little 10 pound long haired Chihuahua with a big heart. She filled my life with her love and loyalty!
Soon after Bella passed away, my dad’s condition declined and he entered palliative care at home.
During those next few months, I cared for him most nights from mid evening until his PSW relieved me in the morning. In the quiet of those nights, as I watched over him while he slept, the light of my laptop screen pierced the darkness. Consumed with anticipatory grief, I knew I would soon lose my dad to lymphoma, which had also taken my aunt.
I poured my broken and weary heart into journaling my thoughts and my grief. It was so difficult watching my dad’s life fade away in front of me. In the early morning of November 12, 2022, my sister, her husband, and I were with my dad as he passed away. In the moment he took his last breath I struggled to draw my next one.
It was the moment my heart shattered and life as I knew it had forever changed!
Fresh grief entered in and consumed me like an unwelcome intruder once again. This time deeper than I’d ever felt before.
Writing about my journey with my father through life and his illness helped me cope with the loss and deep grief.
A year later after my dad passed, we had to put our 16-year-old Lab mix, Koda to sleep. We had Koda from age 5 1/2 weeks old. My daughter and I were to meet my mom and sister for dinner in memory of my dad on what would have been his 87th birthday.
My dad loved our goofy sweet boy Koda and it is my hope and belief they are together again. I wrote more about the experience of navigating pet loss here.
Since then another close Aunt and cousin passed away too. It’s been a lingering season of loss, grief, fatigue, overwhelm, emptiness, and drastic changes. I felt so broken and lost. Navigating grief while caring for my well-being was incredibly challenging.
The act of journaling helped immensely as I struggled to make sense of my life and all the heartache that came with multiple losses.
The Role of Journaling
Journaling became more than just an outlet for my grief; it was a crucial tool for self-care. Writing, sometimes multiple times a day, offered me comfort and helped me process my whirlwind of emotions.
As I wrote, I began to piece together my thoughts and untangle the emotions that felt too overwhelming to confront or share with others. I found it to be healing as I navigated my grief, losses and the different life I now live. I wrote a post called The Healing Power of Journaling you can read it here.
Why Journaling Helps with Grief
The weight of grief creates an overwhelming storm of emotions, making it challenging to navigate daily life.
Journaling offers a safe space to release emotions and express complex feelings.
Processing Grief: Writing helps us make sense of our emotions, allowing us to explore and understand our pain more deeply. Through journaling, we can confront complex feelings, identify patterns, and gain insights into our grief journey.
Self-Reflection: Journaling encourages self-awareness, leading to personal growth and resilience. Reflecting on experiences can provide valuable insights into our emotional responses.
Stress Reduction: Grief is stressful on our minds and bodies. Writing about our thoughts and feelings reduces stress and anxiety, promoting a sense of calm.
Finding Comfort: Journaling can help identify moments of hope and gratitude, shifting focus from pain to appreciation and finding comfort in the legacy of love and memories.
In these moments of reflection, we uncover glimpses of hope and gratitude
for the legacy of love and memories we carry close to our hearts.
Finding Comfort Through Writing
Life is filled with challenges and moments that weigh us down. Along the way, we lose loved ones, and it hurts. For me, journaling has been a lifeline, helping me cope with deep grief and navigate multiple losses.
If you are navigating the grief of losing a loved one — I’m sorry for your loss.
I encourage you to find a quiet space and let your thoughts flow. You may discover that journaling can be a light of hope in the darkest times.
Journaling through grief offers a unique path to healing. It provides a safe and personal space to process complex emotions, reflect on our experiences, and gradually piece together the fragments of our shattered hearts. For me, journaling has been a constant companion in my life.
Over the past five years, journaling has become both a healing and transformative practice. Through writing, I’ve been able to express my deepest feelings and find a sense of healing, peace, and strength. This practice has allowed me to navigate my grief more effectively, offering a space to untangle my emotions and gain clarity during challenging times.
My Journey Through Grief and Loss
In 2019, my life took a drastic turn when my parents were involved in a severe car accident. Overnight, I became a caregiver for both my mom and dad. Just months later, my close aunt was diagnosed with aggressive cancer and passed away within six weeks. As if that wasn’t enough, my dad was diagnosed with cancer while also living with dementia.
The pandemic then intensified caregiving responsibilities and isolation. In August 2022, my 17 1/2-year-old dog Bella passed away suddenly beside me. Soon after, my dad entered palliative care at home, and I cared for him each night until he passed away on November 12, 2022.
Since then, I’ve faced more loss, including our 16-year-old Lab mix, Koda, another close aunt, and a cousin. Navigating grief and loss while attending to my well-being has been challenging, yet journaling has been a vital practice that has helped me immensely.
The Role of Journaling
Journaling became my refuge during the quiet, often lonely nights caring for my dad. With only the light of my laptop screen piercing the darkness, I poured my heart onto the pages. Writing about the pain of losing loved ones provided a glimmer of hope and strength.
Journaling was not just an outlet for my grief but a crucial tool for self-care. Writing multiple times a day offered comfort and clarity, helping me navigate the tumultuous waves of grief and find moments of peace. My journal writing helped to lighten the consuming weight of grief enabling me to feel a sense of peace.
Benefits of Journaling
Emotional Release: Journaling provides a safe space to express deep emotions, releasing pent-up feelings and reducing the intensity of grief.
Processing Grief: Writing helps make sense of complex emotions and find meaning amid chaos. It allows you to explore and understand your pain.
Self-Reflection: Journaling encourages self-awareness, leading to personal growth and resilience. Reflecting on experiences can provide valuable insights into your emotional responses.
Stress Reduction: Writing about thoughts and feelings reduces stress and anxiety, promoting a sense of calm. It can act as a form of meditation, helping to alleviate stress.
Finding Hope: Journaling can help identify moments of hope and gratitude, shifting focus from pain to appreciation. Reflecting on positive experiences fosters a sense of peace.
Building Resilience: Regular journaling strengthens emotional resilience. It allows you to see your progress and recognize your inner strength.
Life is filled with challenges and moments that weigh us down. Journaling has been my lifeline, helping me navigate deep grief and multiple losses. If you’re facing similar struggles, I encourage you to start writing. Journaling can be a powerful tool for healing and emotional well-being, offering hope and strength.
Through my journal, I found a way to process grief, honor loved ones, and heal my broken heart. It became a testament to resilience and a reminder that even in profound loss, there is a path to recovery. So, take a moment, find a quiet space, and let your thoughts flow onto the paper. As I did, you may discover that journaling can be a light of hope in the darkest times.
